Thursday, November 03, 2011

The Lord Will Not Provide

It's not like watching a train wreck. It's like watching somebody floor it into a brick wall. But it does provide for some entertainment.

I turned 29 a couple of months ago. When I was younger, I figured I'd be married right out of college. Although that didn't happen, I still figured I had time — my 20s were ahead of me, after all. But lately I've been contemplating what life would really look like if I don't get married. What will I do? Where will I live? How will I serve? If this stage of life isn't temporary, what comes next?

I am the type of person who usually goes out and gets what she wants. I wanted to go to a good college, so I worked hard in high school. I wanted to be a writer, so I studied journalism and did internships with magazines. I want to write a book someday, so I write daily and I'm going to grad school to get credentials that will put some authority behind my name. For the most part, I feel in control of things. But being a wife, being a mom seem so far out of my control. I wait on God, hoping He's listening to the true desires of my heart, and grappling with what it means if He hears those desires but has a different path for me.

On an interesting side note fellow students, does anybody want to pick apart the above on what Principles of Cappy Cap she violated, thus guaranteeing her failure in the future?

18 comments:

Izanpo said...

1) She got her degree in "Estrogen-ology 101"

Anonymous said...

Doing grad school Computing Science.
As in the actual, proper education.
As i write this, i haven't slept in 4 days, because of the coursework taking that much work.

fuck yeah.

Tony said...

She is waiting to long to find a mate.Letting her most marketable years pass focusing on career.

Anonymous said...

She is a woman.

self-exiled Spaniard said...

During the winter of 2007 I finished my grad thesis on 'something related to mining'... whilst working 12-14 hour days on a 21-days-in-9-days-out rotation and living most of the time in a crappy motel in northern Ontario (whilst wife and baby were 1000 miles away)... yeah, life is hard. No pain, no gain (I owed no money when I finished grad school, because my wife was the one working until she had the baby, then it was my turn, whether my thesis was finished or not).

Girl-power gender issues princesses and hippy graduate puppeteers: cry me a river.

Anonymous said...

Ok, she got a pretty much worthless degree, then doubled down on that mistake by going for a master's in the same subject.

While I'm not so skeptical of God as the Captain, waiting around for God to do something, then sighing that the nothing that happened is God's will is sad. I don't think God wants us waiting for him to act, I think God expects us to act as best we understand at the time and keep acting. If it wasn't right, you'll know about it soon enough and you make corrections and keep going.

It appears to me that she may be waiting for God's perfect choice for a mate ("the right one"), which may never happen because people aren't perfect. Meanwhile as Tony has said, she has let her most marketable years pass.

There are so many disappointed single females in their 40s and 50s simply because they were waiting for a Mr. Right that doesn't exist.

Anonymous said...

The Lord will send me a beta provider regardless of my own behavior -- it says so in the Bible!

Paul said...

I love the rest of the article, she's not just got the hamster going, she's got the Holy Hamster of Antioch. Notice the very specific orders she has for the Lord and the gender references to God: He will provide.

Nothing is her fault, and it's all up to men, even the Man (God in His role as the Father) to provide it for her, all she's got to do is just sit back and wait for it to show up on a silver platter. What a complete and utter lack of humility.

Dave said...

"I'm the type of person who usually goes out and gets what she wants."

Says it all, really.

The list of specifications that make up the yardstick she is holding any prospective mate up to would, I fear, have to be long enough to rule out 95% of the population at a glance.

Good luck with that.

Anonymous said...

She claims being a wife or mom, would be way beyond her control. What a strange outlook. Starting a family is not all about me myself and I. Becoming a mom or Dad, is about participating in something, that is bigger then your own individual self. This is how a society maintains itself, by creating new individuals. She is only interested in her own selfish outlook on life. I wonder how many cats, she will end up living with.

Anonymous said...

I was thinking about this one over lunch. I can`t help wondering, whatever happened to the social taboo, regarding old maids? Girls were told to watch out how they behave, because you don`t want to end up being an old maid. There was even a kids card game, called old maid. Becoming a single mother was also a big social taboo. It seems that some of these social taboos served a purpose in society. They help guide behavior.
The women in the article could certainly use some helpful advice.

CL said...

God helps those who help themselves. She's probably too fussy.

mmack said...

Cap'n, may I take a stab at this?

"I"
"I"
"I"
"I"
"I think, I want, I do, I go, I get"

"Enough about me, what do you think of me?"

Methinks that the lady doth protest too much. If you are so driven to go out and get the things that you want, then obviously getting married and having children isn't all that important in your life plans.

Strikes me she can't find someone because she can't get her gaze off her navel.

So, how'd I do?

mmack said...

Cap'n, may I take a stab at this?

"I"
"I"
"I"
"I"
"I think, I want, I do, I go, I get"

"Enough about me, what do you think of me?"

Methinks that the lady doth protest too much. If you are so driven to go out and get the things that you want, then obviously getting married and having children isn't all that important in your life plans.

Strikes me she can't find someone because she can't get her gaze off her navel.

So, how'd I do?

LordSomber said...

Overuse of the first person guarantees a spiral into navel-gazing tedium.

Pirran said...

I'm disappointed with you guys...seriously.

How can you say she has a useless degree? I checked out her profile and she has a Masters in Old Testament Biblical Studies and spends her spare time translating Hebrew.

We need MORE people translating English into Aramaic for Mel Gibson sequels:

"Jesus 2...He's not really dead, he's hiding behind a big rock".

Come on, these are the people who are going to drag us out of the recession...

Dalrock said...

Good find Captain. As I wrote on my own post on the topic, Christians are impressively bereft of wisdom in all matters related to love and marriage. Even worse, they are quite proud of their foolishness and therefore intent on showing off.

Geo Lol said...

Hey Free Speech for the dumb
Free Speech for the dumb
Free f*cking speech!